Use psychology of achievements
Many of us have great ideas, yet few are putting them into reality. What stops us?
Lack of action is caused by lack of knowledge concerning psychology of achievements. It’s a discipline of knowledge that teaches us how to plan how to correctly aim for our goals, know how to motivate, receive feedback, to systematically improve a process and changing strategies to action. All the laziness, excuses, blame on others… These are just ripples of lack of knowledge. That is consciousness.
How should we fight against this? And in general, should we fight? Or maybe it’s better to accept that not everyone has to be successful?
Not everyone has to be a millionaire and in fact, it is not a necessity. Americans made surveys on the correlation between earnings and happiness. It appears that at above earning of hundred fifty thousand dollars a year, the level of happiness does not change. So in the end, it doesn’t make a difference if we are earning more as it will not change much. O.K. there is a difference between earning two thousand and eight thousand zloty a month. But between twenty and fifty thousand, the difference is much smaller even though financially it seems significant.
I would ask a different question, what does self-fulfilment mean to each of us, and what does it mean to be yourself? People are happy when they build true relations, are competent in what they do, and have autonomy, which means they are free to make their own decisions.
I was able to answer this question and now I know what I want to do in life and what I want to leave behind. Those who do the same will find their path. There is no struggle, then your mind is clear, and it leads to results.
If we're thinking of a change e.g. getting a new job, is there a right moment in our lives to make that change, for example, when we have enough savings?
In order to motivate yourself, you should feel ready to make that kind of decision. The second condition is to have a better alternative to your current job, considering salary, relations, ethics, and many more. The third one is doing it wisely, that means, politely, safely, and without burning any bridges along the way. It also means to have savings.
Should changes in our lives come naturally, preceded by long periods of preparation, or is it worth just being spontaneous?
These two are different models. A fast solution is questionable – it may result in a sudden growth and an unexpected collapse soon after, because changes in reality are not followed by the mental changes or acquiring new skills, where a single event could change it into a predictable and controlled model. The evolutionary growth is organic, safer, but slower.
Generally, everything that grows too fast (apart from cancer or the human embryo) is unbalanced and eventually destroys itself.
A bodybuilder who takes steroids achieves his goal faster, but destroys his heart in the process. Those who win the lottery lose most of their money within the next two years. A proper pace in changing from one reality to the other is a safer solution. Sometimes, of course, you need to speed up the process a little bit, but it's better to do it carefully.
Many of us are often convinced that our job or degree isn't connected with what we really want to do in life. How could one deal with such feelings?
Most of us feel this way because we follow a cultural and family model without focusing on creating ourselves.
You need to create yourself in a different context: imagine yourself as a parent, partners or someone's child.
Without it, we will follow someone else's ideas, trying to figure out what to do with being a passive father, whose job is to earn money, or being a wife playing the role of a mother. Most of human problems have nothing to do with an individual, and derive from culture. A Brazilian's opportunistic nature, a Pole’s complaining habits, or the conservatism of an Arabian extremist, have nothing to do with them as individuals. They are simply carriers of cultural patterns, unaware that they probably are paying the bill for the lack of awareness of previous generations.
This article was published in the magazine “Benefit”